Relationship Coaching
Unlocking the key to happier relationships for individuals and couples and offering support and coaching to those affected by abusive relationships.
Overcoming challenges and relationship pressures through coaching.
Few relationships run smoothly all the time, and in today’s world, the pressure and challenges to maintain a healthy one feel stronger than ever. That is why it is incredibly rewarding for a coach to help a couple reignite a lost spark and rekindle their love for one another.
Effective relationship coaching is aimed at helping individuals and couples strengthen bonds, resolve conflicts, and build healthier and more fulfilling partnerships. A relationship coach provides tools, guidance, and strategies to support and enhance communication, deepen emotional intimacy, and empower couples to weather life’s storms in a healthy and constructive way.
I take an honest and open approach to resolving the challenges couples face. I do not believe in keeping couples in coaching any longer than necessary, and instead work with clients on addressing issues directly and then developing collaborative strategies that support their relationship in the future.
Surviving abusive and toxic relationships.
The truth is, not all relationships can or should be saved. Some relationships are harmful and abusive.
Abuse is not just physical or sexual. The Care Act 2014 recognises ten types of abuse adults can suffer, many of which can and do occur in the privacy and secrecy of a relationship.
Over the years I have had the privilege of working alongside charities and signposting organisations to support individuals who have suffered from abuse and it is incredibly rewarding seeing those individuals not only escape from the shadows of a destructive relationship, but flourish and thrive. I have also studied the dynamics of narcissistic abuse and have worked with individuals and couples trying to move past these particularly destructive partnerships (working with narcissism).
If you need help and support in becoming more resilient and moving forward positively from a recent abusive relationship, I am sure I can help.
Areas where relationship coaching can make a positive impact
Stuck or stale relationships
Has your relationship lost it’s spark, become routine and even boring, and are shared connections seeming like a thing of the past? Strategic Intervention Coaching can help to rediscover and rekindle what once was.
Cheating and infidelity
I have worked with individuals and couples in the past to understand why someone has been unfaithful (sometimes both partners), and the damage and emotional impact caused by such a huge break in trust. The coaching then shifts to how we can repair and rebuild the relationship, with a goal of making it stronger and more committed than before.
Sexual issues and intimacy problems
Intimacy and sexual problems can put huge pressure on both parties in a relationship, not just the individual they might directly affect and a relationship coach can rekindle connection and communication and devise strategies to both repair and improve existing physical relationships.
Jealousy and obsessiveness
Is jealousy or obsessiveness affecting the quality of your relationship? Relationship coaching can help couples uncover the root causes of underlying insecurities, enhance communication, and foster accountability. With commitment, it’s possible to break the harmful patterns and cycles that are hurting the relationship.
Porn addiction and sexual quirks
Coaching can help individuals and couples navigate porn addiction and sexual quirks by fostering open communication, addressing underlying emotional triggers, and improving intimacy. Coaches provide a safe space for discussing sensitive issues, helping couples set healthy boundaries and rebuild trust, and empowering individuals to manage their sexual behavior in a way that supports a healthy, balanced relationship.
Moving on after a breakup
Relationship coaching can help during or after a breakup by offering emotional support, clarity, and guidance. I help individuals rebuild self-esteem, establish new goals, and create a path forward, free from past baggage. For couples considering possible reconciliation or have decided to move on, a competent coach can provide tools and strategies for closure, boundary setting and planning for the future.
Working with Narcissism.
Supporting victims of narcissistic abuse and guiding narcissists towards greater self discovery.
The term “narcissism” and the label “narcissist” appear to be increasingly overused, often by upset ex-partners or individuals seeking to disparage others. In reality, true Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) is a serious mental health condition, affecting only about 6.2% of the population. However, the excessive use of these terms can have negative consequences—not only for those who are unfairly or inaccurately labeled, but also for the genuine victims of narcissism and individuals who feel trapped in or harmed by abusive relationships with a narcissist.
In addition to those formally diagnosed with NPD, many individuals exhibit some, though not all, of the undesirable traits associated with the disorder, often to varying degrees. These traits can also contribute to abusive relationships and the misery and suffering of others. I work with both victims and individuals displaying negative traits along the NPD spectrum (occasionally together as a couples), to address the damage and consequences of harmful and abusive relationships.
Working with victims* of narcissistic abuse
An informed coach who understands narcissistic abuse can help individuals recognise the patterns of manipulation and control, provide emotional support, help rebuild self-esteem, and teach strategies for setting boundaries and regaining personal power. In a short space of time, clients can develop a stronger self of self, learn to break free from toxic cycles and move forward with healthier, more fulfilling relationships.
*As mentioned, the more frequent and increasingly broad usage of the term narcissist (way beyond any clinical definition) means that not all people who present as victims are victims of narcissistic abuse.
Working with Narcissists*
A coach or a therapist working with someone who has Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) will focus on helping an active and willing participant to become more self-aware and develop a greater appreciation for healthier relationship dynamics. It should be only in the remit of a psychiatrist or clinical psychologist to formally diagnose NPD, but an experienced coach or therapist can provide effective tools and strategies to manage behaviors associated with NPD.
*As mentioned, the ever more frequent and increasingly broad usage of the term narcissist (way beyond any clinical definition) means that not all people accused of being narcissists actually fit the clinical definition of NPD.
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