HUMAN NEEDS PSYCHOLOGY

All human beings share the same 6 basic human needs. 

These needs underlie all the choices we make in our lives.

CERTAINTY

The first need is for Certainty

We want to feel safe, avoid pain and feel comfortable in our environment and our relationships. Every individual needs to have some sense of certainty and security – a roof over one’s head, knowing where the next meal will come from, knowing how to obtain care when one is sick, knowing that a neighbor won’t attack us. These are just a few examples of what constitutes a basic sense of certainty.
Everyone needs Certainty but the degree to which certainty is needed or desired varies from person to person. Some people feel secure living in one room and collecting an unemployment check. Others can feel Certainty only if they make a million dollars each year. Even though some Certainty is necessary to all of us, what constitutes Certainty varies from individual to individual. Code words for Certainty are comfort, security, safety, stability, feeling grounded predictability and protection.

UNCERTAINTY/VARIETY

The second need is for Uncertainty

A need for variety and uncertainty and challenges that exercise our emotional and physical range.  Everyone needs some variety in life.  Our bodies, our minds, our emotional well-being all require uncertainty, exercise, suspense and surprise.

Just as a sense of security is reassuring, so the excitement that comes from variety is necessary to feel alive.  For some, variety may be satisfied by watching the news on television; others may seek extreme high-risk activities such as extreme sports.  Code words for Uncertainty/Variety are: fear, thrills, instability, change, entertainment, suspense, exertion, surprise, conflict, crisis.

SIGNIFICANCE

The third need is for Significance

Every person needs to feel important, needed, wanted.  Significance comes from comparing ourselves to others – in our quest for significance, we are always involved in questions of superiority and inferiority.  We can feel significant because we have achieved something, built something, succeeded at something, or we can seek significance by tearing down something or somebody.

In its positive aspect, significance leads us to raise our standards.  But if we are overly focused on significance, we will have trouble truly connecting with others – comparisons focus on differences rather than commonalities.  For some, significance comes from providing for the family; for others, from doing meaningful work; some need to make a major contribution to the community; some require considerable wealth.  Some people achieve a sense of significance by failure, by being the worst at something, or by having low self-esteem.  Whatever the measure of significance, a sense of being important is necessary to all human beings.  Code words for significance are: pride, importance, standards, achievement, performance, perfection, evaluation, discipline, competition, respect, and rejection.

LOVE/CONNECTION

The fourth need is for the experience of Love and Connection

Everyone needs connection with other human beings and everyone strives for and hopes for love.  An infant needs to be loved and cared for during a long period of time if it is to develop normally.  Infants who are not held and touched will die. This need for love continues throughout our lives.  It is epitomized by the concept of romantic love, the one person who will devote their life to us and make us feel complete.  In some cultures, romantic love doesn’t exist; it’s replaced by the love of relatives, friends and tribe.  Some people rarely experience love, but they have many ways of feeling connection with others – in the community or in the workplace.  The need to be loved is characteristic of all human beings.  Code words for love/connection are: togetherness, passion, unity, warmth, tenderness and desire.

GROWTH

The fifth need is for Growth

When we stop growing, we die.  We need to constantly develop emotionally, intellectually and spiritually.  We grow and change physically as we develop from infancy to adulthood and old age.  We grow and change emotionally with every experience, and we grow intellectually as we respond to events and to the world around us.  Anything that you want to remain in your life – your money, your health, your relationship, your happiness, love – must be cultivated, developed, expanded.  Otherwise, it will degenerate.  Some people satisfy the need to grow by working out physically or by reading a book.  Others need to study and learn constantly in order to feel that they are truly growing.  Code words for growth are: developing, learning, self-improvement, studying, and understanding.

CONTRIBUTION

The sixth need is for Contribution

The sixth need is for Contribution – to go beyond our own needs and to give to others.  A life is incomplete without the sense that one is making a contribution to others or to a cause.  It is in the nature of human beings to want to give back, to leave a mark on the world.  Giving to others may mean giving time to community service, making a charitable donation, planting trees, or giving to one’s children.  Not only can everyone contribute in some way, but contribution is essential to a sense of fulfillment and to happiness.  Code words for contribution are: giving, sharing, helping, supporting, guiding, teaching and making a difference.